What is Emotional Intelligence?



الذكاء العاطفي هي الخاصية التي تمكننا من المواجهة بصبرٍ، بصيرةٍ وخيال المشاكل العديدة التي نواجهها في علاقتنا المؤثرة مع أنفسنا ومع الآخرين. قد يبدو مصطلح الذكاء العاطفي غريباً. اعتدنا على أن نشير للذكاء كخاصية عامة، من غير فك التنوع المحدد الذي قد يمتلكه الشخص – و لذلك نحن لا نميل إلى تحديد قيمة نوع مميز من الذكاء والذي لا يحظى حاليا بالمكانة التي يستحقها. كل صنف من الذكاء يشير إلى قدرةٍ للتنقل جيداً حول مجموعة معينة من التحديات: حسابية، لغوية، تقنية، تجارية. عندما نقول بأن شخص ما ذكي لكن نضيف بأنه فشل في حياته الشخصية؛ أو أنهم كسبوا ثروة ولكنهم غير مرتاحين وحزينين أو أنهم أقوياء لكنهم غير متسامحين و يفتقرون للخيال، نحن نشير إلى عيب يستحق بأن نسميه بالذكاء العاطفي. في الحياة الاجتماعية، بإمكاننا أن نشعر بحضور الذكاء العاطفي في الحساسية تجاه أمزجة الآخرين و في قابلية ادراك الأشياء المفاجئة التي قد تكون تجري للآخرين تحت السطح. الذكاء العاطفي يعترف بدور التأويل ويعرف أن ثورة الغضب قد تكون نداء مساعدة متخفية، وأن الخطاب السياسي الصاخب الطويل قد يكون مثار من قبل الجوع و ماهو متخفي وراء الفكاهة المصطنعة قد يكون أسى تم تجاهله عاطفياً. وفيما يتعلق بأنفسنا، الذكاء العاطفي يظهر على شكل شك حول مشاعرنا، وخاصة مشاعر الحب، الرغبة، الغضب، الحسد، القلق والطموح الوظيفي. الأذكياء عاطفياً يرفضون أن يثقوا بالاندفاعات الأولية أو بالحكمة الموروثة لمشاعرهم. يعلمون أن الكراهية قد تخفي الحب، أن الغضب قد يكون عظاء للحزن وأننا عرضة لأخطاء كبيرة ومكلفة حول من نرغب فيه وما نريده حقاً.الذكاء العاطفي هو أيضا ما يفرق أولئك المحطمين من قبل الفشل من الذين يعلمون كيف يرحبون بمشكلات الوجود بكآبة و أحياناً بمرونة هزلية سوداوية. الأذكياء عاطفياً يقدرون دور التشائم المتعامل معه بشكل جيد في الاقتصاد العام من الحياة الطيبة. الذكاء العاطفي ليس موهبة فطرية. إنه نتيجة تعليم ، تحديداً في كيف نفسر أنفسنا، ومن أين تأتي مشاعرنا، كيف تأثر طفولتنا بِنَا والطريقة المثلى للتعرف على مخاوفنا وأمنياتنا. في المدينة الفاضلة، سيكون من أمراً معتاداً أن يتم تعليمنا الذكاء العاطفي من عمر صغير، قبل أن تكون لنا فرصة ارتكاب اخطاء كثيرة. لأننا – إلى الآن- لم نأخذ الذكاء العاطفي على محمل الجد بشكل كافي جنسنا البشري أصبح ماهراً من الناحية التقنية بينما مازال محافظا على حكمة أيامه الأولى؛ مع نتائج كارثية. نحن قردة متطورة مع أسلحة نووية. يبدو أن مصير حضارتنا معتمد الآن على قدرتنا في إتقان آلية التعليم العاطفي قبل فوات الآوان. الذكاء العاطفي يعني شيء ابعد من التعليم العادي كما تصورناه الى الآن. بالرغم من انه يجب إضافة دورات متخصصة في كل سنة دراسية وفِي الكلية، الذكاء العاطفي هو أكبر من شي يجب أخذه في الصفوف على يد مدرسين ثم ينقطع في سن الواحدة والعشرون. المركبة الأساسية لنقل الذكاء العاطفي هي الثقافة، من مستواه الأعلى إلى الأكثر شهرة. الثقافة هي المجال التي يمكنها تعويد و الترويج بإستمرار استيعاب الحكمة. دروس الثقافة التي تم قد تم ترسيخها في مأساة أو برنامج تلفيزيوني، أغنية بوب أو رواية، فن معماري و فيلم يوتيوبي. بإمكاننا تخيل أدوات الثقافة باكملها كآلية ماهرة صممت لتوجيهنا نحو ذكاء عاطفي أكبر. لن نتقدم كجنس بشري، و بالفعل سننمو لنصبح تهديد تكنولوجي مسلح على أنفسنا، إلى أن نتقبل تحديات و فرص تعليم أنفسنا الذكاء العاطفي بشكل جيد. ذكائنا التقني هو بالتأكيد جيد. لقد قادتنا إلى ترويض الطبيعة و غزو هذا الكوكب. ولكن مستقبل أكثر حكمة وتعقلاً لهذا العرق يعتمد على قابليته على السيطرة ومن ثم التعليم بشكل جذاب المبادئ الأولية للذكاء العاطفي- بينما مايزال هنالك وقت. شكراً لمشاهدتكم، الضغط على الإعجاب و الاشتراك. إذا ترغبون بالمزيد فلما لا تزورونا شخصياً و تحضرون حصصنا؟ أو تلقون نظرة على متجرنا عن طريق الضغط على الرابط على الشاشة الآن؟

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  1. The School of Life said:

    The conversation here has taken a fascinating turn (fascinating for us at least): we see a lot of comments that want to suggest that emotional intelligence does not exist/has been made up/is not a thing. We assume that what people mean by this is that science, especially neuroscience, cannot clearly identify a separate part of the mind that can be referred to as Emotional Intelligence. This is perhaps very true. But it somewhat bypasses our point. We're not looking for scientific validation, we're simply pointing out certain emotional faculties which can be more or less developed in people – and can be fostered by a good surrounding culture. We're surprised too at the line of argument that suggests that the idea of Emotional Intelligence was invented by 'stupid' people to make themselves feel better about not having achieved anything. This seems unnecessarily harsh – because achievement comes in many forms and the ability to understand human nature is as valid a pursuit as the ability to (for example) play basketball or cook well.

    June 25, 2019
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  2. 126er said:

    Would this be correct?….
    Donald Trump has high emotional intelligence…

    June 25, 2019
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  3. Ryan MacDonald said:

    you think to much

    June 25, 2019
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  4. Jack Cheng said:

    I hear a … W I T C H

    June 25, 2019
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  5. The Future said:

    If you're emotional then you are a psyche

    June 25, 2019
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  6. Mohan Gawade said:

    Can anyone here recommend me good books on this topic???

    June 25, 2019
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  7. Ray Donalds said:

    I just read an article on emotional intelligence I found interesting: https://spendingiq.com/2019/05/15/how-do-i-become-more-emotionally-intelligent/

    June 25, 2019
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  8. Yami Le said:

    💗💓💕💞

    June 25, 2019
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  9. Shizumii said:

    I want to list an example.
    My mother.
    In my childhood my mother cared about our landlord for she was of old age. My mother never really took anything from her.
    And the time came when our landlord, who too acted like a second grandmother to my sister and I, got sick. My mother cared about her til the end. Her name was Marianne.
    Marianne was grateful to my mother and died in this House silently in her sleep.
    She gave us her cat and her house.
    Two gifts that my family and I will never forget. She had some relatives but they never visited her.
    And still sometimes try to claim the house. It's sad that her relatives think the property was of more worth than Marianne who baked cookies for us every X-Mas,
    or gave us easter eggs and bunnies a women who always communicated with her cat (her/our cat lived till the age of 23 years) a human being just like ourselves.

    And my point is that you can achieve great things with EI.
    You can build a more lovable World around yourself. A world where we understand each other and won't just gosspi so lightly about someone we never even talked to. A World you and I want to actually like to go out and socialize without wanting to shut ourselves into a computer generated unreal World.

    June 25, 2019
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  10. Paloma Cantero Gomez said:

    Emotional Intelligence: The 8 Evolutionary Steps to Master Emotional Skills https://www.forbes.com/sites/palomacanterogomez/2019/05/21/emotional-intelligence-the-8-evolutionary-steps-to-master-emotional-skills/#636fce7a6190

    June 25, 2019
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  11. Shawn Coleman said:

    This video is brilliant. Thanks for this clear, concise description. I have linked it to my video about how Groot from Guardians of the Galaxy helps teach us emotional intelligence.

    June 25, 2019
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  12. Graydiation said:

    Which job would someone with emotional intelligence be employed?

    June 25, 2019
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  13. W W said:

    Difference between IQ, EQ and SQ – the Social Intelligence, and why SQ is the future!
    https://www.socialigence.net/blog/difference-between-iq-eq-and-sq-the-social-intelligence-and-why-sq-is-the-future!

    What is IQ, EQ & SQ ?

    https://www.speakingtree.in/allslides/what-is-iq-eq-sq

    June 25, 2019
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  14. W W said:

    Aristotle once wrote (paraphrase) to understand anything you have to start at their beginnings and follow them through to see why they are the way they are.

    I was working on my graduate degree in Psychology and this was some of what I found. Psychology is defined as the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, especially those affecting behavior in a given context. Psychology is actually not a single idea or school of thoughts but instead a collection of Psychologies or in other words there were a group of different people, each with very different histories who each wrote, from their own life's experience, their own psychology (study of mind and behavior). This is why we see that psychology can be projected onto a continuum where on one end of the continuum is the feeling/humanistic/Gestalt/Existential perspective while on the other end would be the thinking/ behavioral perspective. You would have to actually read the biographies of each of the originators of each of the different psychologies to understand each person's experiences that influenced their perception of life and how they translated that into a psychology.

    Psychology is a science. In the beginnings of science three guys were getting together and they shared the frustration that they couldn't study those things considered to be meta-physical. From this they decided to study those things of the physical world. They never, ever said that the meta-physical wasn't real, science was only to be a form of study. Science intentionally chose to ignore what is considered to be a large portion of reality. It would be much like a person choosing to ignore or not sense anything with the color blue. Imagine how you would perceive your existence if everything blue was not a part of your reality.

    Then, there were very specific and very influential happenings that greatly affected the base knowledge of much of humanity. These events created certain distortions in how humanity perceives reality. One would be Newtonian Physics. Remembering that psychology falls under the heading of "Science"… science generalizes its understandings across the entire field of scientific studies. Newtonian Physics made certain statements that simplified, disconnected one living being from other living beings. Then there was Rene Descartes "I think therefor I am" which pushed human beings into their heads AND emotions took an immediate back seat. Since science chose to ignore the metaphysical which God would fall under, this is why it is a mistake for religion and science to get into an argument that God does or does not exist. Now, we are going in the direction of Quantum Physics and also the works of Antonio Damasio PhD, Portuguese-American neuroscientist, who wrote "Descartes Error" has forwarded "I feel therefor I am". The problem is that for most people, their reality, their foundation, is based on past or previous distortions.

    The problem for humanity is that Science has been "made" to be the measurement of reality. That reality has made us very materialistic separated from each other, separated from our meta-physical self, and makes us completely a bio-mechanical machine. It isn't that Science isn't a noble study, it is just that it has been misunderstood by many and has created huge distortions in humanities perspective of our reality.

    I have had personal experiences where I have queried thousands of people about being what today would be called sensitives or past would be called psychic, mediums, empathy about what is their position was on the subject. The simple answer is that a large majority speak to being a sensitive but won't say that they are for fear of being declared "crazy"… this response is based in the effects of science.

    I have also come to see early life programming has an effect on our connection to the meta-physical. For instance, we are taught that God is this big burly white dude who throws lightning bolts and sends you to hell, while Near Death Experiences tell us something surely different. Or Spirits that we, since childhood, are taught that they are very scary and dangerous… take a look at how even Casper the Ghost gets beat up by his mean family or The Amityville Horror creates a certain perspective of spirits, but people described as sensitives tell us a very different story.

    Since this is a YouTube channel, I'll forward this using YouTube.
    Review Past Lives 20/20 documentary https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hMfsjXiZGis&t=16s ,
    Paranormal Encounter Episode 3 Past Live Regression https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uedrRBG8yBY&t=170s ,
    Past Life Regression Therapy – Saving the Orphanage Children https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qBPhLZHERpE&t=63s .

    You could also go to the web site "OurPsychicLives.com" and I would recommend the story called "God Enhance Music". Read it and try it.

    Einstein when talking to one of his peers while discussing "telepathy" he said that "it probably has something to do with physics". During Einsteins time the study of the Occult was common place and Einstein wasn't denying telepathy but instead was trying to present a possible process.

    June 25, 2019
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  15. Paloma Cantero Gomez said:

    The 3 Words Used By Highly Emotionally Intelligent People https://www.forbes.com/sites/palomacanterogomez/2019/05/02/the-3-words-used-by-highly-emotionally-intelligent-people/#69e089196d78

    June 25, 2019
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  16. Mass Extinction said:

    Red Pill 💊👌👀 love is an emotion and emotions change, Love changes!
    No narcissism supply for you assols

    June 25, 2019
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  17. RHONDA ROSE said:

    THANK YOU.WE CAN'T WAIT for public schools to teach our young how to EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS/EMOTIONS.PARENTS MUST TEACH BY EXAMPLE!: I AM ANGRY,I NEED AN APOLOGY&AN EXPLANATION,ETC.(ROLE/SOUL PLAYING). ONLY fear&anger BLOCK our amazing,innate abilities to SHARE OUR LOVE.

    June 25, 2019
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  18. sw23ae said:

    Where can I buy some of this please? Lol

    June 25, 2019
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  19. Ayush Agrawal said:

    I liked very much that you told that it needs to be inculcated in the culture. Thanks for compiling this video!

    June 25, 2019
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  20. High Priestess said:

    Emotional intelligence teaches you to take responsibility for your feelings. Also that offense is taken and not given. You decide what hurts you just like you decide what makes you feel good. Emotional intelligence helps you to become more conscious of this. Instead of reacting impulsively. Then blaming others for your reactions to your own emotions.

    June 25, 2019
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  21. Dan Murphy said:

    "emotional intelligence" is the best example of an oxymoron that I can think of.

    June 25, 2019
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  22. Adelina D said:

    Half of these people only commented to publicly mention and praise themselves on their high emotional intelligence.

    June 25, 2019
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  23. Danny Joey said:

    So empathy, sympathy and an understanding of how the subconscious manipulates our actions?

    June 25, 2019
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  24. Arthas said:

    i was and still above average emotional intelligent but i changed a lot i must be angry and dont understand and fight a few kind of unsupportable&unkind people… of course there is a reason behind everything every act and behaviour but being emotional intelligent is hard with all types and kind of fellow people.. being emotional intelligent is you are high emotional TOO

    June 25, 2019
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  25. Innergenic A said:

    “Emotional intelligence”
    Causing a predictable point that waits one way or another

    June 25, 2019
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  26. Innergenic A said:

    What’s the point of watching this if we feel invaded

    June 25, 2019
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