The Innovation of Loneliness



a simple class monkeys that are known to have a developed social life organized in small groups of several dozen members the size of each of these groups is limited in order for them to function all members of the group need to know each other well the average size of the group changes from 20 to 50 members when the number of monkeys in a group passes a certain threshold the social order crumbles and the group tends to split into two separate groups a similar situation can be found amongst humans as well the invention of language and gossip has helped to shape larger and more spacious groups sociological research indicates that the maximum natural size of a group of humans is roughly 150 members most humans are just incapable of intimately knowing more than 150 people so even today the threshold of human organization is around the number of 150 members man is a social creature and the feeling of loneliness can drive them mad and get the Western and modern world sanctions individuality the individual is measured by personal achievements such as having a career wealth a self-image and consumerism in this course of action many people lose their social and familial connections in favor of a self-actualization ideal as a social fabric into Western worldly things it is not surprising that more and more people define themselves as lonely and thus loneliness has become the most common ailment off the bottom one of the possible reasons for this ailment is the online social network in a world where time is money in which our surroundings heavily pressure us to achieve more and more our social life becomes tainted and more demanding than ever before and then there's technology simpler hopeful optimistic ever young we become addicted to virtual romance disguised by the social network which supplies an impressive platform that allows us to manage our social life most effectively however our fantasies about substitutions are starting to take a toll we're collecting friends like stamps not distinct in quantity versus quality and converting the deep meaning and intimacy of friendship with exchanging photos and chat conversations by doing so were sacrificed a conversation for mere connection and so a paradoxical situation is created in which we claim to have many friends while actually being lonely so what is the problem in having a conversation well it takes place in real time and you can't control what you're gonna say and that is the bottom line texting email posting all of these things let us present the self as we want it to be we get to edit and that means we get to delete instead of building true friendships were obsessed with endless personal promotion investing hours on end building our profile pursuing the optimal order of words in our next message choosing the pictures in which we look our best all of which is meant to serve as a desirable image of who we are we're expecting more from technology and less from each other the social networks aren't just changing what we're doing but also who we are and that's because technology appeals to us most where we are most vulnerable and we are vulnerable we are lonely but we're afraid of intimacy while the social networks offer us three gratifying fantasies one that we can put our attention wherever we want it to be to that we will always be heard and three that we will never have to be alone and that third idea that we will never have to be alone is central to changing our psyches it's shaping a new way of being the best way to describe it is I share therefore I am we use technology to define ourselves by sharing our thoughts and feelings even as we're having them furthermore were faking experiences so we'll have something to share so we can feel alive we slip into thinking that always being connected is going to make us feel less alone but we are at risk because the opposite is true if we are not able to be alone we're only going to know how to be lonely you

43 Comments

  1. Political Fashionista said:

    we're not lonely because of the internet, morons! we're lonely because the woman has a full time job.

    June 27, 2019
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  2. Michael Spencer said:

    A must read on this? https://medium.com/futuresin/the-coming-plague-of-technological-loneliness-9f1b46774ca8

    June 27, 2019
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  3. Eileen C said:

    This is so very true.

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  4. Saul Martinez said:

    EYYY who here from Mr. Smith's?

    June 27, 2019
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  5. Thao Tran said:

    This rings truer every year

    June 27, 2019
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  6. James Graham said:

    Spelling error, animation is animaiton, you probably know this by now. Re-upload the video with the correction.

    June 27, 2019
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  7. mexicanthinker said:

    Please, allow me to add a spanish translation.

    June 27, 2019
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  8. Florian Wicher said:

    I shared this video on Facebook a few years ago because I liked the cool animations. However, coming back to it now, I notice that, contentwise, it is just a bunch of nonsense. I don't know anyone that actually substitutes their real life friends and social connections with social media. Just because Facebook "friends" are called "friends" doesn't mean we unlearn what friendship means. We literally can't, because it isn't learned. It is hardwired in our biology.

    June 27, 2019
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  9. mexicanthinker said:

    Hello, 1622Shimi. I have a Spanish subtitle file for this video. I would like to send it to you, so you can upload it here. Do you have an e-mail address?

    June 27, 2019
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  10. Rich Williams said:

    Brilliant video

    June 27, 2019
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  11. rouxou said:

    a video made by an extrovert

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  12. Rach Bell said:

    yeah. speak for yourself fella

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  13. Digital Beat Music said:

    I have deleted facebook account 2 times already. How about increasing male teenage masturbation rate in Japan?

    June 27, 2019
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  14. Per Marius Haugen said:

    This is a result of smart, hard and good work.
    Thank you so much for this. I am using both this and the original Turkle video in my teaching.

    June 27, 2019
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  15. Jason said:

    Excellent production. Is there irony in sharing this?

    June 27, 2019
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  16. TJV Pictures said:

    Amazing work, i'd love to get to know more about the workflow, as in which programs did you use? what kind of techniques helped you the most animating it?
    thanks in advance and keep up the good work!

    June 27, 2019
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  17. Christopher Snyder said:

    Thanks

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  18. Koala Kontrol Jr said:

    Welp, the state of Delaware is now using this video…

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  19. nean said:

    Sarp reyizden geldik :m

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  20. Greynight Arashi said:

    I have no social media actually… i dont need it. But i do game a lot.. multiplayers… and i enjoy almost all of the people i talk to.. im surrounded by people who can relate to me in at least one way if not in most… ive made many friends and a handful of amazing ones too…

    June 27, 2019
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  21. LightningToast3 said:

    Social media has started to make me feel genuinely depressed and more lonely…

    June 27, 2019
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  22. Summers Winterer said:

    This is brilliant. Very important in this day and age of the detached cell phone user with headphones pretending everyone around them are plastic show room dummies.

    June 27, 2019
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  23. kg202 said:

    ADD @OFFTHEMCAMZTHETRUTH ON INSTAGRAM! THAT REAL! IF YOU LIKED THAT VIDEO YOU WILL LOVE THE PAGE!

    June 27, 2019
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  24. Ian Butler said:

    I agree with this but in a different way, while social media has changed the way we interact it has mostly changed the way we think. Instead of deep meaningful conversations I mostly find myself talking to people around me who don't think deeply, but more superficial. I can't do small talk for shit, but when it comes to why the keyboard has the layout that it does, I have a flurry of questions and probable answers that engulf my thought. I was alone for 3-5 weeks, and I would have so many massive and deep thoughts that I realized how limited we are, a brain that can think outside the body, but can only communicate by physical actions.

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  25. J158n said:

    Very well said
    Last part gave me goosebumps

    June 27, 2019
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  26. The Robot That Stole Your Jawb!!! said:

    social media is garbage, its the perfect medium for narcisistic idiots that feels like erybody wants to know how much their shit weighted today, nobody truly "shares" things, they only "show" stuff , when is the last time you had a deep or half meaningful conversation with somebody on facebook? , fuck social media, the land of superficiality and empty narcisism.

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  27. David Wittchen said:

    Great video! Thanks for sharing 🙂

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  28. Alejandra Davila said:

    Yah that explains a lot

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  29. Kyle Ledesma said:

    Love this! Aesthetic and content, everything. 🙂

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  30. Igli Koci said:

    Forever Alone likes this

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  31. Igli Koci said:

    That was deep.

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  32. Zuwwar Jadoon said:

    Well you are doing great, i appreciate you but can you go a little slower in your video. It will make the viewers understand easily what you are trying to deliver.Thanks

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  33. Shounak Patwardhan said:

    Love the swift and fluid animation

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  34. KonohasGreen Beast said:

    Japan has it the worst 100%

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  35. PhilipOMeara said:

    I agree with all of this except the last two sentences. And about the origins of the modern epidemic of loneliness

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  36. Piloto de Caça said:

    FAKE!

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  37. Albert Hobson said:

    Perfect

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  38. MaryYeung said:

    http://www.7cupsoftea.com/12100371
    For anyone suffering from depression or other things alike, above is a link to an online and completely anonymous counseling and therapy cite, where there is a supportive community of active Listeners and other struggling members seeking a person to talk to about what is troubling them.
    Everyone on 7 Cups of Tea is supportive and are trained Listeners, our aim is to reduce stigma and help others feel better through active listening, even if it starts only with one person.

    June 27, 2019
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  39. GodsIlluminatedOne said:

    SOCIAL MEDIA + PEOPLE = ALONE….DEPRESSION….MENTAL ILLNESS….( ALL THINGS BAD IN THE WORLD )….AND ETC….( AINT SHIT GOOD ABOUT PEOPLE AND SOCIAL MEDIA )….COMPUTER TECHNOLOGY AINT DOING HUMANS A BIT OF GOOD….( SOCIAL MEDIA IS THE DOWNFALL OF MANKIND )….SOCIAL MEDIA IS THE REASON WHY PEOPLE GOING CRAZY….AND DOING ALL THIS CRIME IN THE WORLD….( GET RID OF SOCIAL MEDIA AND WATCH CRIME DECLINE )….SOCIAL MEDIA AND CRIME GO HAND IN HAND….ITS COMMON SENSE….( PEOPLE DONT TALK TO EACHOTHER ANYMORE )….AND THATS WHY CRIME IS GOING HIGHER AND HIGHER….ONCE PEOPLE START TALKING TO EACHOTHER AGAIN….THE WORLD WILL BE A BETTER PLACE….( HUMANS GET RID OF YOUR COMPUTERS AND ALL TECHNOLOGY )….IT SERVES YOU….( NO MORE )

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  40. Luis Rosales said:

    Its very interesting, but I feel like this video is extremely biased. I do agree the majority of people connected through technology don't do much in regards of actual communication (where "actual communication" is subjective to one's preference).

    For me that is causes, saving people, and helping during disasters, as stated in the video its generally a small group that does the work before the social order crumbles, and generally I always see small factions of activists/humanitarians act dutifully.

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  41. savvageorge said:

    Please be my friend, I'm so lonely. Maybe we can hang out and you can show me now to make cool animated youtube videos.

    June 27, 2019
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  42. Gregory foster said:

    To real

    June 27, 2019
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  43. Sunni Sukumar said:

    Great summary of Sherry Turkle's TED talk. Well done with the animations and narration! "We're collecting friends like stamps" is often so true. I'm looking for deep connections and conversations with people.

    June 27, 2019
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